New Program Beings: May 1, 2019. Please read on to find out all about the Eating Peace Process.
You can join from anywhere in the world, and do this program from the privacy of your own home. You will learn foundational practices for eating peace, plus six modules on key topics to deprogram stressful belief systems and rebuild your self-love, understanding and confidence around eating and your body image.
If you’re ready to sign up right now, choose the payment plan that works best, and you’ll have access to the Foundations material right away:
- Eating Peace Process: Save $164 and Pay in Full ($997)
- Eating Peace Process and pay the first monthly fee: First payment (12 payments of $97) for Eating Peace (you’ll be invoiced on the 15th of each month).
Eating Peace Process is a unique program of its kind that focuses on the original energy, belief or birth of a craving or stressful thought about our body….and applies inquiry using The Work of Byron Katie and mindful awareness and compassion. The idea is that when we address the stressful thinking, and can observe with and open mind, we get to face the thought that declares “I’m ugly” or “I must eat” or “I can’t lose weight” or “this is urgent” (including the urge to eat immediately).
Eating Peace Process is a PROCESS. It is a practice in transformation. This tends to happen a little bit at a time, one step at a time, shift by shift. Sometimes there’s a dramatic awareness and a significant change….but what we orient ourselves towards is kindness, gentleness, safety and forgiveness when it comes to what we’ve done and felt with food (and with our thinking about life)!
There are 2 live calls every week (we take the last week of the month off) and a zoom call the third week of the month to share and ask questions, so there’s a huge amount of live contact and support available if you want it. There will also be facebook LIVE sessions every week during the program.
If you find this program isn’t right for you, please know you can get a refund (minus $97) until May 30th.
To learn more about the program itself and the sign-up process, scroll down.
How could something so simple, pleasurable and necessary get so incredibly off-track, so that what to eat, when to eat, how to eat, where to eat…..all gets fraught with tension and stress, frustration and disappointment.
It seems there’s always too much food, or not enough food. Or the danger of either one. Never just right. Never free. Worried before eating, rebellious or anxious during eating, ashamed or frustrated after eating. Winding up feeling deprived, or guilty.
And that’s not even taking into consideration our bodies, and the anger about them not being “right” or weighing too much, or appearing ugly.
Solutions to address eating problems have existed for decades. Most of the solutions involve finding the right diet, and a priority on weight loss. The focus is on grabbing the bull by the horns, finding your willpower and discipline, and concentrating your efforts on tackling this “problem” full out.
Often there are menus, shopping lists, measurements for portion sizes, and a concentration on measuring, data, weighing and memorizing what you’re allowed or not allowed to eat.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Controlling the intake of food, and examining the contents of the food itself, is a fascinating and amazing study.
But most of us are experts at nutrition and dieting! And yet, still tortured by eating….we know what “should” or “shouldn’t” be eaten, but we find the cravings and emotional experience overwhelming when it comes to sticking with a diet or food plan.
Eating peace, I never found, focuses on the diet.
Diets generally live in the realm of control and adding knowledge and documentation to each day, each meal, and each bite. It meant I could not be trusted to eat freely, so I needed structure and rules.
And it seemed like I couldn’t trust myself! I never knew what would happen if I walked into a room with a table covered with food! All hell could break loose!
However, treating myself like someone who needed shackles and a leg bracelet that would beep if I went into a fast food joint was so sad, and something seemed off about it. Was this really the solution? Was I really simply unable to cope in certain situations without eating?
Was it true that if I took one bite of sugar, I’d keep eating from one end of town to the other, inhaling all the sugar in sight? Was it true that certain foods would forever freak me out? Was it really true I was unable to trust I could be in a room with loads of delicious food without obsessing about it, wanting it, and consuming it against my best interest?
Even in my twenties when I was filled with suffering about eating and body, I knew something else was going on, and I truly wanted to understand WHAT? I wanted to experience NOT having the compulsion to eat, or starve, or manage food and my body, or exercise when I didn’t feel like it. I knew my natural state was not to need to force myself to do what felt kind, healthy and balanced. This “disordered”eating thing I knew was somehow learned, or adopted. I was not born that way. I knew it. Neither were you.
The Eating Peace Process is a program of learning, awareness and deep practice in self-inquiry, so that we can access our true balanced relationship with eating.
It is your privilege and birthright to be in the world at a natural, right-sized body, freely enjoying the taste of food and not fearing it. In the Eating Peace Method, we’re lightening our thoughts and hearts, so our bodies and relationship with food follows.
You can do this, with the tools we use. It doesn’t matter if you’ve felt mild concern with food and eating, and a constant need to lose ten pounds, or an intense rigidity around maintaining a thin physique…..
…..or if you’ve felt completely insane when it comes to food, like I did.
I once saw a video somewhere long ago, where one person I admired in the art scene was in a green room with others for a little pre-show fun and conversation, all being video recorded. There was something sweet on a large plate–either cupcakes or special cakes with elaborate designs, apparently expensive desserts shared with this group of entertainers.
One young man saw the plate and proceeded to ask the others in the room who wanted to save one for later, because he needed to do something with the plate so he wouldn’t start consuming it with a vengeance. People looked at him curiously, or made little jokes knowingly. Some took a treat and placed it near them. He asked one more time “does everyone have a cake who wants one?!”
Then, he reached beneath a cabinet in the room, took out some kind of cleaning fluid, and sprayed the entire plate of the remaining beautiful treats with poisonous cleaning fluid, used to clean bathrooms. “Now, I won’t eat them all later!” he exclaimed.
I shook my head, remembering that kind of relationship to food and eating, and the sadness of it all. Treating a beautifully created morsel of food as dangerous, enticing, evil. It was seeing the food as if it held so much power, the power to cause him to hurt himself with the eating of it. A battle with an adversary in the world.
When I saw that video, it had been many years since I had binge-eaten, or obsessed about plates of food like they were the enemy, and something to “fight” or wrestle with. But I still remembered the torture of feeling like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde when it came to eating. I understood what that young man was doing when he sprayed the beautiful cakes with cleaning fluid.
I also did NOT want to live like that, ever again.
Violence, counting, control and willpower is often the only thing we consider will ultimately work, when we’ve been suffering with food.
But there is another way.
It requires energy and “work”, but it’s an investigative work, not a laboring drudgery work or a forceful work, as so often offered in solutions to eating woes.
Instead, our intention is to bring peace to this troubled situation with eating. To understand, relax, and feel clear about what is, and is not, required for happiness. Our desire is to find our own inner “no” to being off-balance with food and eating, not an outside “no”.
Our Eating Peace Method is a path is to regain power, instead of feeling powerless when it comes to food. To work with our fear in a way that brings true safety and self-respect. And to be with emptiness or boredom by discovering satisfaction, fulfillment and joy.
It’s a method of permanent healing and change through un-training, un-doing, un-conditioning yourself. Not an instant fix. You already know a magic fix doesn’t exist, right? You’ve tried many (often in the form of diet and exercise plans), and they’ve lasted only temporarily.
A process or method is a series of steps and actions taken over time that add, enhance, shed light, offer discovery, and give you clear resources for ending the imbalanced and agonizing experience you’ve had with eating.
The Eating Peace Method is really a way of life. It’s a practice of uncovering hidden agendas, hidden fears, and the places we feel conflicted.
You might be wondering…..how? Or maybe you’re thinking…..it’s a lot of analysis and emotional work. Won’t that take too long? If I have to understand my hidden motives, agendas, beliefs and fears…..will it be like therapy? I’ll have to endlessly recount the past, my wounding, my emotional baggage.
Ugh! I’ve done that enough already! Is that what we’re doing?
No, and yes. We’ll capture some experiences from the past to review with inquiry, and we’ll also be focused on presence in this moment, now.
While we are indeed observing where we feel powerless, empty, afraid and dissatisfied in our lives, we don’t have to get it all figured out and feel elated all the time in order to be free from this concern about eating. That would be equally as difficult an expectation as controlling our diet forever for the rest of our lives.
There’s a place of balance. Emotional bliss or happiness is not required for peaceful eating. Understanding EVERYTHING about our inner world is also not required for peaceful eating. Eating peace can exist even if you feel sad, upset, hurt, or frightened in your life. If there’s a storm, or a fire, or an earthquake….you don’t usually eat immediately. You don’t have to eat for any other personal stormy reason, either.
It becomes easy to simply enjoy food, whatever kinds of food you eat or don’t eat. Acceptance and open hands becomes the approach, not defending and closed fists.
The very first place we start, in the Eating Peace Process, is to meet ourselves and our thoughts with understanding. It’s like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. We start with the first step on a journey. A journey where we’re trying to find our way back home.
The Eating Peace Process is a course designed to unhook your mind from focus on food, weight, cravings, or what diet you’re on, over a 3.5 month period (which you can repeat as many times as necessary), without feeling dread, eliminating all the foods you love, controlling your cravings, or starving to death.
In Eating Peace Process, we move from frustrated and despairing when it comes to eating, food and our bodies….to feeling empowered, aware and joyful with eating, food and our bodies. We never thought this was possible, but it is. It’s happened to many of us!
Eating Peace is a course where we rediscover our innate ability for sanity and freedom when it comes to eating–we were born with this ability to eat in balance.
Where did it get lost?
If you’re overweight, over-eating, binge-eating, starving yourself, obsessing, hating your body, trying yet another food plan or diet (and either succeeding or failing) then you probably already know that diets don’t work permanently forever for the rest of your life, and something is really out of balance.
I’ll spare you the evidence. You’ve likely lived it. You’ve decided so many times to start eating like x diet–it worked for awhile–and then, discouragement. Or despair. You’ve made vows, you’ve said you’d never do it again, you become overwhelmed when in the presence of a huge buffet.
You probably already know that trying one more diet (the latest keto, or going vegan, or eliminating sugar entirely, or weighing all your food) will work for awhile, but that there are no guarantees for sanity and eating peace when you do any of these things. And no guarantee for permanent weight loss either.
You’ve probably also heard that the weight loss industry is worth roughly $66.3 billion US dollars, selling everything from diet pills to meal plans to fancy gym memberships. You no longer feel interested in following that pathway. Been there, done that.
You’re also very likely aware that eating issues have to do with the inner emotional life. Some of us can see the compulsion, the tension, and we know there are reasons we’re eating or thinking about food in ways we really don’t want to. We’ve all heard the term “emotional eating”. We understand these days that eating issues fall into the compulsion/addiction category when they get really destructive.
But it really hasn’t been that long that we’ve become clearer on the links between tortured mental energy around food, eating and our weight and our overall psychology. The first clinical paper ever to have been written on bulimia, for example, was only in 1979. Binge eating disorder wasn’t even recognized as it’s own “disorder” in the Diagnostics and Statistics Manual until 2013.
Some of us with eating issues are overweight, some of us are underweight, some of us look “normal”–but most of us feel ugly and self-critical about our bodies and our minds feel anything but normal. We feel horrible about the way we eat, and how we eat things. We’re eating with guilt, aggression, sneaking, rebelling, or being perfect and controlling.
Even though the motivation to overcome these inner eating wars is clear, the pathway to doing it is anything but.
Years of therapy? Addiction treatment? Twelve step program? Meditation? Labotomy (little joke)? Martial arts? Mindfulness training? Self-inquiry? Boot camp? Paleo diet? All raw food? Fasting?
We still need to eat. We’re tired of dieting and spending hours in the gym. But far more importantly, we need to look at our emotional life, and our thinking, when it comes to eating, food, weight, and body. We also need to look at our beliefs about relationships, boundaries, trauma, fear and aloneness.
The way we see this eating predicament is really a microcosm of the way we’re seeing the world: with food (and the world/other people) we think we need to be very, very careful, we think we’re doing it wrong (with food, with others), we think they don’t like us (we’re in danger of separation or rejection), we think we’re not safe and something terrible could happen any minute (getting hungry, having a craving, overeating, gaining weight), we think we have to sneak just a little pleasure and otherwise go without.
When we perceive the world as a dangerous or tricky place….we walk on eggshells OR we smash all the eggshells without care. When we perceive eating and food and our bodies and our minds as dangerous and tricky, we barely allow ourselves to eat a thing, or we eat wildly, and we go wild with our emotions, or we try to hide them…and we try not to think certain thoughts and use mind-control to manage our behaviors.
The roller coaster ride of eating, having a body, and choosing foods is so wild, we often want to give up entirely.
There are three powerful mindset shifts required to access eating peace and stop this inner suffering. You must challenge, and transform, the following beliefs or stories.
- Belief #1: I believe in emergencies. I believe in danger, overwhelm, failure. I believe I will be taken over by force (whether cravings, or a person, or something that happens in the world like a tornado). This is an incredibly powerful story, and not instantly dissolved by any stretch of the imagination. But oh so possible to reduce and begin to diminish–more profoundly than you may have ever thought possible. Anyone can learn to work with their greatest fears and the idea that they are small and powerless. When we challenge this stressful story, the world becomes safer. Food, eating and our bodies also become safer when we are not so scared anymore of other completely non-related experiences.
- Belief #2: My body should be different (thinner, smaller, better, lighter, more defined). When we keep this thought as True, we are endlessly looking Out There for the solution, for our perfect body. We hide the one we have. We avoid situations like beaches, or being close, or sharing intimately, or being seen. We have no sincere intimate connection with the world–because this is done through our bodies. Our body is so important, so attention to it is vital for safety, acceptance, success. This is deeply difficult when we believe that the body must be improved or it is wrong the way it is–we get lost in body correction, and no longer remain connected with other human beings. We are lonely. We exert more control, and feel miserable.
- Belief #3: My feelings are bad. When we believe our emotional life is too stormy and wrong, and hurtful, then we hold a deep sense of negativity, or even shame, just because we feel in a big way. We often suppress our feelings and don’t feel free to emote, express, have conflict or disruption…and we move through an unpredictable world with trepidation. We’re always bottling up our emotions, or keeping them hidden when we believe they are difficult. We tend to eat to manage uncomfortable emotions.
We can turn all these beliefs around. We use mindfulness, honesty, kindness, self-inquiry (The Work of Byron Katie) and a new approach to our feelings called compassion and acceptance. We tap into our own wisdom again, the wisdom given to us when we were born. We find our natural ability to eat, then stop eating, eat again, enjoy, and not believe judgments in order to be safe or happy. Eating can become something simple: being fueled while enjoying it immensely. It is no longer a stand-in for something missing, or something overwhelming.
Anyone can challenge the mistaken beliefs we’ve held about food, eating and our bodies, even though they’ve been around for years. The imagination and mind are brilliant, and they can help us develop new ways of being with the world, without war….and without eating off balance!
So how do we do it?
We need to engage in a program actively where we retrain our thoughts with love, compassion and acceptance. We inquire into what we’re thinking and believing that hurts. We also become willing to reveal and understand the parts of ourselves we’ve always wanted to hide, including shame….about our eating, what we’re doing with food, and our bodies.
Introducing: The Eating Peace Process. A course that directly addresses and heals the underlying causes and impulses, thoughts and feelings that create off-balance eating in the first place.
The result? A natural eating peace. YOUR natural eating peace.
Eating Peace Process is a unique program of its kind that:
- brings us to awareness, clarity and peace around urgency when it comes to food, eating, bodies (weight loss for example) and believing we need something ASAP or else….
- we question our body shape, size, weight, ugliness and inquire into our experience of control, force, violence, movement, disgust and turn these around (and it never means we’re giving up making changes with the body)
- holding feelings as good, honorable, important and beacons for how we’re thinking–all feelings are welcome instead of us trying to eliminate them
If you’re ready to foster and grow true eating peace (and body peace) through thinking peace, while avoiding diets, drudgery, shame and willpower…..here’s how we’ll get you there.
New Program Beings: May 1, 2019.
FOUNDATIONS: GETTING OUR MEDICINE KIT TOGETHER FOR OUR JOURNEY
In our first two weeks of the eating peace process, we’ll learn and practice foundational principles that support us to live, think, feel and act differently with food and eating. You’ll add a few simple practices to your life such as silence (five minutes of meditation if you’ve never done it before) and you’ll identify your inner wise guide and your most beautiful heavenly day when it comes to food. You’ll be clear about what you CAN DO right now when it comes to eating on a daily basis, without struggle.
The Foundations Module is one in which we apply action. We’re adding new ways of being to our morning each day. We’re reflecting and watching. We can’t know where our “problems” with eating lie unless we begin mindful practice.
You’ll have a map of the program. We’ll pull out the x-ray vision, so you can see what’s really happening more clearly at your core, and what drives your off-balance eating. You’ll be given the tools to use for the entire program, as a basis for a supportive life with eating, and really, with being a human with a creative mind.
- accessing kindness
- calming down exercises
- silence–learning to be supported in meditation
- The Work of Byron Katie (step-by-step overview for those who have never done it)
- one page a day–why journaling is so important especially in understanding compulsive behavior
- committing to guidelines in our hearts, minds and eating–our own way
- meeting your Compassionate Advisor
MODULE ONE: SPELL-BREAKING
We look at the order of creation, as written in many theoretical and philosophical observations about human behavior: Think – Feel – Act – Have. We start with the mind, the center of “thinking” to see where and how we need to think differently, in order to be happy with eating. We question our stories.
IN Module One we assess. What’s going on? Let’s observe, without judgment, what we do that’s not working. You’ll create an Awareness Map of your eating. We’ll be making friends with Thinking and Imagination. What happens when you get hungry? What happens when you get full? What’s going on in your mind and thoughts? We explore dissolving the Sin-Guilt-Punishment Cycle. How can we use imagination for peace instead of war? Let’s find out. Exploring your immunity to change, or what’s holding you back (often unconsciously). We learn what we’re most afraid of that prevents true change.
MODULE ONE LESSONS:
- 1 Dance of Acceptance and Change – Think, Feel, Act, Have
- 2 Stories/Beliefs that keep us from eating peace
- 3 Have To, Want To, Choose To…Ending Diets forever
- 4 Why am I eating?
- 5 Hunger, Fullness and Finding (and Staying In) Your True Comfort Zone
- 6 Your Unique Immunity to Change
MODULE TWO: UNDERSTANDING EATING and EMOTIONS
We’ve all heard of emotional eating. We know what it is. But how do we interrupt it, or do our work so we find something even better than eating: feeling our feelings completely.
MODULE TWO LESSONS:
- 1 Feel More Eat Less: The importance of stressful feelings–messages from beyond!
- 2 Beliefs about feelings
- 3 Feeling without suffering
- 4 Empathy
- 5 Living Turnarounds: Moving through life while remembering our favorite turnarounds
MODULE THREE: EMPTY, BORED, DISSATISFIED TO FULL, INSPIRED, SATISFIED
What is powerlessness and how do we work with it or notice it? We begin to gather our personal medicine bundle. Understanding masculine and feminine energies when it comes to food and eating.
What is being empty? Focus on Feeling-ness (which is bigger in many ways than Mindfulness), Deficiency and Grasping when it comes to eating patterns. We’ll look at Rejecting or Bolting–two of the biggest reactions around food, and the emptiness of boredom.
What are we afraid of? How do we work with the feeling of fear, in any form whatsoever (very small worry to full-blown terror)? How can our Inner Mentor or Fairy Godmother help with this? Accessing kindness, self-care and pleasure to support our freedom with food and eating. Exposing the fears bring awareness, and we can make a plan for how to handle them, without willpower, without deprivation.
MODULE THREE LESSONS:
- 1 Longing, complaining, and inspiration
- 2 Healing Shame and Guilt
- 3 Relaxing around PLEASURE and desire
- 4 Romance, Bodies and Food
MODULE FOUR: TRAUMA TO TRIUMPH
As we explore trauma, beliefs from the past, difficulties…we’ll look at three key feelings that fuel eating anxiety again: Powerless, Afraid and Empty/Lonely. You’ll work with your Fairy Godmother, Wise Guide or Compassionate Advisor. Grace will give you the medicine (practices) she’s used over time, to create health and healing around food.
MODULE FOUR LESSONS:
- 1: Fight, Flight, Freeze
- 2: Avoidance–it works–and what are the long-term costs?
- 3: Safety Zone & Building Tolerance for Distress
- 4: Defensiveness: Curiosity instead of Shield–Ending the Fix It approach
- 5: Restoring True Power Without Dictatorship
MODULE FIVE: NEW WAYS TO SEE–BODY IMAGE & TRUST
We look in this Module at physical sensation, fullness and hunger, weight and judgment, and ACTION. In module four, our lessons include:
Leaving Weight-Hate, Mirror Work in depth. You will have an exercise to work with your reflection in the mirror, and really “see” what the truth is for you.
Observing, Looking at Data, moving from where you are to where you want to be, with ease.
Understanding judgments from others about body image, and the culture we come from, and how to become free AND accepting of it all at the same time. You can want to lose weight, and take action for change.
MODULE FIVE LESSONS:
- 1: I should be….Mirror, Mirror. Beliefs about the body’s improvement
- 2: Assumptions and Distortions: healing what we think
- 3: Cravings
- 4: Mother and Father Body Stories
- 5: Movement and Stillness: Exercise & Joy
MODULE SIX: YUM ZONE PRACTICING PEACE IN ALL OUR AFFAIRS
Your Eating Peace Practice….Living In The YUM Zone. Unconditional Love and Transformation. We investigate what “Doing Nothing” means and how to use this rested approach further in food and eating. Simplicity, Patience, Compassion—the three things we need to work with anything, according to the Tao Te Ching. Source and Center–how to stay in the middle which is our practice. Observation as a spiritual path. You will create your own map again, your own guidance, for where to go from here, and continue your transformation into permanent eating peace.
Self-Compassion: daily practice – your own Eating Peace map to use.
Silence and the Wisdom of Doing Nothing. Can we go limp when having a worry, a craving, a concern? What can we trust? How do we keep this simple? Journaling, support team, The Work as a way of life.
Your Vision of Peace. Can we stay with the mystery of this work, and be patient with ourselves? Yes, it is possible. You’ll know what to do if you get off track, and how to treat an off-balance moment with welcome.
Expanding your life: See where to explore that has nothing to do with food or eating that satisfies you (based on Artists’ Way). We look deeply at our most core fear: endings, death, emptiness.
Living Your Turnarounds: Clearly working with the new images, words, feelings you find as you’ve questioned your thinking.
MODULE SIX LESSONS:
- 1: Looking again at Eating Peace
- 2: Success, Failure and Peace
- 3: WhenThings End
- 4: Qualities You Most Admire
- 5: TurnAround to #6 (I am willing, I look forward to…)
In Eating Peace, we’re investigators. You’ll see where you feel most upset with food in your day to day life. You are the one person who knows you the best. You have amazing and powerful information about YOU within, that no one else has. Now we need to get that information out, and down on paper. If you’re willing to write, consider, contemplate, wonder about reality and you, then you can do this work.
What people find who participate in the Eating Peace Process, is they become fascinated with their thinking, feeling and actions and what’s going on when it comes to food, in a good way (not the old mean-spirited argumentative, depressing way). When we really “get” who we are and what we’ve been fighting or feeling, the arguments can end.
In the Eating Peace Process, you will find out the connection between your mind, your feelings and your eating behavior. What I discovered, is my thoughts drove me to eat the way I did. My thoughts and beliefs were off-balance, so my eating was off-balance, and so was my body. My feelings were the only thing I was aware of, not my actual thinking. They were a jumbled mess–reactions to my thoughts. All I felt was a fog of confusion.
This is a process to cut through the fog and confusion, and feel clarity.
You can discover awareness and freedom over time, step by step, by taking this wonderful (sometimes difficult) journey into eating peace. The key for me was to be willing to sit with that jumbled fog of confusion, and the difficult feelings, and give them words so they could finally communicate, rather than wishing it would all just go away.
One of the primary tools we use in Eating Peace especially during live interactive calls, besides concentrated writing exercises to understand your thinking and eating behaviors, is the self-inquiry method called The Work of Byron Katie.
The Work is a way to question what you believe so it no longer runs your life (and your eating). It takes some “work”. You’ll need to be willing to answer some powerful exploratory questions. But I’ll be guiding you every step of the way, and you’ll have a group to share this experience with. Together, we can do it. We can follow the trail of eating peace.
So what does the Eating Peace Process look like? How much time is involved? How does it work on a practical level?
The Eating Peace Process is initially a program designed to address, create and foster inner conditions of peace. Your peace. A peace so unshakable, that even if you felt concern about some area of your life…..you wouldn’t consider eating over it.
You’ll have ongoing access to webinars and lessons, and then additional live regular check-in group calls.
You’ll have access to each new version of the program once you’ve taken it once, for life.
Eating Peace Process is crafted together to address all the stressful ways of thinking that create off-balance eating. It helps us question and change at the fundamental level of our inner perceptions and beliefs that drive weird eating, and it works.
In each module there are recorded webinar presentations on important aspects of eating peace. One module, with all its 5-6 lessons, will take you time to complete. You can view every lesson in each module as many times as needed in our private eating peace process membership site. Each module has a focus for 2 weeks as a group, then we move to the next.
Audio-only calls on Tuesdays and Thursdays twice each month PLUS one zoom video conference call in week #3 (once on Tuesday, once on Thursday) for Q&A and inquiry and coaching.
A private membership forum where everyone can connect
Paired partnering with other members of the group to create community, support and sharing with others at a deep level
When you enroll:
You’ll receive instant access to the Foundational Module in this program after you sign up. Each Module will be available after two weeks. You will receive the exact schedule of when you’ll have access to each module as we begin the program.
My personal goal is to help you achieve peace with food for the long-long-long term, and be finished with dieting, harsh food plans, weighing and measuring when it doesn’t serve you, and self-criticism….or firmly know you’re on the road to achieving this.
Frequently asked questions:
How much time will this take? It’s recommended that you find and schedule at least 1 hour per week of time to listen, watch and do the exercises on your own. In addition to this time, pick a live 60 minute telecall each week to attend (you can listen to these as recordings if the timing doesn’t work for you).
I recommend scheduling your lesson consumption time each week–you can do it on a weekend, weeknight, week day….any time that works for you. All the lessons are recorded and ready for you. They are created to be short, lazer sharp, and focused on one point at a time.
When will I stop eating or change the way I eat?
When you begin the program, you won’t instantly be given a diet, or a way of eating. We WILL however address food plans and eating. You will need to consider, with the help of the eating peace approach, what works for you with loving kindness as a way of eating. You will intend lovingly to this way of eating for the program and to the deepest kindness you can find within, as your peaceful approach. Yes, there will be options for reassessing and upgrading your personal plan, as long as it’s conscious and not out of panic, rage, rebellion or self-hatred.
Then, the first thing we need to do is understand what’s going on when we begin to eat, or binge, to identify the thoughts in the mind we believe, and question them.
One giant lie I used to tell myself is “I have to eat”. I had this thought when not hungry, when upset, when overwhelmed, when I saw something delicious looking, when I felt lonely.
We begin to look at the top thoughts, like this one, inside Module One: Breaking The Spell, and to question them and turn them around, using The Work of Byron Katie. Who would we be without our stories or lies about eating? I know now “I do NOT have to eat.” You can discover you don’t have to either. I am here in the program to support you questioning this kind of powerful but very stressful lie about eating food.
Can I participate from Europe or in another time zone? When are the live calls?
You can participate from anywhere. The sessions are accessible for free through the internet. Exact dates of live inquiry sessions–all times are Pacific Time:
- Tuesdays 5:00-6:00 PT
- Thursdays 9:00-10:00 PT
- Eating Peace Process begins again January 22, 2020
- Annual Eating Peace Retreat is every year in January in Seattle, WA. Come if you can.
What if I have a food plan I prefer to follow?
This work is about your own comfort, awareness and care for yourself. If you have a plan that works for you, please bring it to your work in eating peace. Some people feel more comfortable with a structured food plan–if this is you, wonderful. There is no reason to drop this plan by participating in Eating Peace. I even encourage you to have a plan if you feel safer and clearer with one, for now.
Refund or cancellation policy:
Please cancel within one week if you are unable to participate for any reason (less $97 administrative fee). This program is very high touch and you are signing up for live groups, an ongoing tribe of committed peaceful eaters, course content, partner work with others, and regular access to Grace through email and our private forum. Everyone has access for life, so that if you miss any of the material, you will have it recorded for watching at any time. For the May 2019 program please write to Grace by 8:00 pm Pacific Time on May 30th to withdraw. You have a full month to decide if it’s right for you.
Sign up for the Eating Peace Process and remain a member for life. You can re-join any year, any time, for no additional fee. It’s lifetime access as long as I’m in business.
NOTES ABOUT THE FEE AND HOW WE LANDED ON THE PRICING:
*8 individual 1-hour sessions is $125/each or $1000 total with Grace, or just about any counselor or healing professional trained to work with eating issues (in many areas the hourly fee is $145-$185). This amount of time could never cover all the material and content of this eating peace process.
*Emotional Eating groups or treatment settings for eating “addiction” or disordered eating range from $100-$200 per session for a minimum of 3 months. Outpatient emotional eating groups can be up to $1000 per week.
*Stop Fighting Food, Eat Less Live More, Stop Binge Eating Now are all $997-$1497 programs with live support calls and learning modules.
*Mindful Eating Programs are abundant but teach only the specific experience of eating mindfully at a meal and body awareness–these are included inside Eating Peace Process. Most of these programs in mindful eating range from $97-$500.
*Membership sites supporting weight loss or clarity with eating range from $19-$97 per month but often with a downpayment of some kind. Add up the monthly fees to see how long you’ll pay before you arrive at $997 (in one we checked, it was exactly 12 months). The monthly fees are ongoing for as long as you are a member, so get a sense of how long you’d like to be participating in this work. FYI many eating peace process members have been actively participating for 3 years, and never at an extra charge. (I’ve even had one person voluntarily send monthly payments of $70 for the most recent program–she was a member since 2016 and felt it so valuable, she wanted to contribute more).
The live support for 3 months, access to the facebook private secret group, and recorded lessons and information are valuable and comprehensive for dealing with eating and food compulsions, but really any addictive/compulsive process. You’ll have everything you need for understanding and healing your mind and heart when it comes to eating. The time it takes is unknown for each person, so you have lifetime access so you can return to this practice over time and continue on your own magnificent and wonderful journey.
- $997 pay in full click HERE.
- $97 to start now, and receive a monthly invoice for 12 months in total ($97 every month), click HERE. This is whether you are actively participating or not (the program shifts focus during some breaks between live calls). The payment plan option is made for those who cannot pay in full at the beginning. This is not a subscription type program–all 12 payments will be due. And then, you’re “in” for life. Keep coming back as much as you need it and as often.
Eating Peace Retreat in person in Seattle is January 15-20, 2020 and offered separately from online Eating Peace program–however, those who enroll in both receive $100 off the full fee for the retreat. Retreat begins Weds evening and ends Monday morning 1/20 (a US holiday). You will see the special discount option to add this retreat when you sign up for Eating Peace Process.
To register for Eating Peace Process, a comprehensive deep immersion in online thinking, feeling and eating freedom, click your choice of links below to enroll.
When you join, it includes lifetime access.
Click here to register for Eating Peace Process and pay in full and save $164: Pay in Full
Click here to register for Eating Peace Process and pay monthly for 12 months $97 per month: First payment for Eating Peace. You’ll be invoiced monthly for 11 additional payments.
Note: You can receive a refund after the first 30 days of the program if it is not right for you (less $97).
Praise for Eating Peace Online:
I like this format a lot, the presentation, which I like to watch and hear via the recording so I can pause it. And then the interactive work on live calls. Also, this particular subject, with its emphasis on feelings, seems to be particularly “opening” for me. With gratitude!
Thank you Grace! The format was great. I liked seeing the slides and I enjoyed typing responses more than speaking them out loud. I also enjoyed hearing the beautiful ways that people wrote their own responses. I also like how you summed up the techniques we already have been given at the end… it makes me feel more organized and less confused.
In this program, I never lost interest, there was never anything that did not feel like it didn’t apply to me in some way. Some things really stuck for me, like the Stop/Go dialogue and the emphasis on using imagination – who would I be? I love one weekly gathering where we don’t talk. I SO appreciate this topic – this is so huge for me and I’m so glad you gave this class. I would take the entire program again!
Grace is like the fairy godmother who is objectively and lovingly looking at what’s going on in behavior, thoughts and feelings. The content of the class felt comprehensive and well thought out. I would certainly recommend the course. Thank you.
Thank you for the wonderful writing and videos. I had a big breakthrough that came after watching a few of your videos again. I’ve realized that what’s been happening for me since the EPP course ended is that my inner mentor has been coming forward more and is now ready to be fully in charge….It’s been powerful for me to see that this is ME and not an external character….It’s so clear now. I feel an indescribable peace.
Grace, you have a REMARKABLE ability to embrace anything that comes into our Work, and weave it in. I love your light-hearted but serious style, and that you can tell your own stories. Looking back at what I wanted to get out of the program, I can say that I got a lot more than I imagined. Thanks, so much.