Much love,
Grace
Much love,
Grace
Eating Peace. It seems so hard to find.
We’ve heard about changing our mindset and ending our bad habits, including our troubling “thinking” habits. We’ve read the books about transforming negative behavior, or quitting an addiction. We’ve studied the compulsion problem…sometimes for years.
And yet, something persists that keeps us overeating, binge-eating, under-eating, starting another diet, gaining weight, losing weight, trying harder, redoubling our efforts at sticking to a plan, graze eating, eating when bored, eating carrots to try not to eat ice cream. We’ve been told weighing and measuring every bite is the best idea since we can’t be trusted. We’ve thought we should just accept ourselves as fat (there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation though).
We’ve noticed the imbalance and lack of peace. And what hurts most of all, is the self-hatred and self-criticism. Shouldn’t we know better, by now?
Perhaps we have great knowledge of compulsive eating and the dynamics of how it’s created, but it seems even knowledge and learning isn’t the ultimate answer. We really just want peace.
Good news. Eating Peace is possible for anyone.
I know this because I’ve worked with both myself, and the many people who discover, through self-inquiry, an unshakable peace they couldn’t see before.
Why couldn’t we see it? Because of all the beliefs, mental activity, and uncomfortable feelings and impulses coursing through our systems.
It really helps to know what thoughts and stories to question that drive off-balance eating.
Often, people seek eating peace with a very unpleasant feeling of despair, rage, disappointment or worry. They often say “I don’t know what I’m thinking or believing that makes me eat! It feels like I’m a walking zombie gobbling everything in sight, in a trance, under a spell–and I can’t stop trying to stop myself, and keep eating at the same time!”
It’s all so confusing.
And then….to add more fuel to the fire: the pandemic.
Isolation, a fridge that’s just over there a few steps away, deep worry about the future.
So I’m offering a complimentary webinar, before I begin the Eating Peace Experience immersion program this year, where I’ll share five belief blunders–I think of them as spells because that’s what it actually feels like for so many.
We’re under the spell of our stressful, troubled thinking. Our eating reflects it. Stressful thinking, stressful eating. Compulsive worrying, compulsive eating.
We can question the beliefs that drive the eating, and un-learn our habits.
What I find over and over is when we identify and question the false or mistaken beliefs about ourselves and about eating, food, body and emotions, our thinking actually shifts. When our thinking shifts, so does our behavior. It naturally becomes more balanced and sane. Our weight becomes more balanced.
Change happens from the inside out, not the outside in. No diet, control, or will is needed. No special gym training, counting or weighing and measuring meals, or special program of eating. We become free.
Join me in learning five belief blunders to eating peace. It’s my joy to share this with anyone who is attracted to this work. It has changed my entire life. I used to be haunted with thoughts of food, eating, perfectionism, angst, anxiety and worries about rejection. I used to feel very separate. That is no longer the case. It’s been a wonderful process, and it continues every day. There is no more binge-eating, binge-thinking, or binge-worrying about food.
At the end of the webinar, I’ll stay for a live Q&A where you can ask me anything about eating, freedom, peace and ending any and all eating struggles.
Please register and choose the day you will be attending this 90 minute workshop:
*Tuesday, October 6th, 2020 11am PT/ 2pm ET/ 8pm Europe
*Weds, October 7th, 2020 10:30am PT/ 1:30pm ET/ 7:30pm Europe
*Thurs, October 8th, 2020 11:00am PT/ 2pm ET/ 8pm Europe
Sign up for the free webinar HERE.
Much love, Grace
P.S. This webinar is offered before beginning the immersion program, and can assist in helping answer your questions if you have them (I’ll answer at the very end).
Learn more about the full program Eating Peace Experience HERE.
Much love,
Grace
Much love,
Grace
P.S. For Eating Peace work, the next event is Eating Peace Experience which is an immersion group starting Monday, October 5th. Learn more HERE.
I’ve heard from a remarkable number of people in this time of the virus.
At home, strange schedule, near the fridge or the pantry.
Eating. Eating some more.
You are not alone if this is your experience. And, there is a way to heal and end that impulse.
I’m working on a quick free workshop online for those of us with consuming issues. It will be for people in the private facebook group HERE.
The facebook group is free, and a place where we kindly share around how to relax from the root cause–beliefs in the mind–about food, eating, emotions and body image.
I think of the whole world of THOUGHT about eating, body image, exercising, over-examining diet, constant return to eating off-balance….like a religion or a university of eating that’s gone completely off the rails with false stories and beliefs.
Yikes. Lots of rules and regulations, stress, requirements, impossible goals and expectations. You can’t seem to graduate successfully either.
One Bible of Beliefs about food and eating is The Book of Shoulds and Shouldn’ts.
We should do this, and not do that. Eat this, not that. Eat this way, not that way. Eat at this time, not that time. Look this way, not that way.
All while maintaining sanity. So in other words, we even believe we should think certain ways, and feel certain ways.
It’s exhausting, and very difficult to maintain the rigor needed to keep all the “shoulds” together.
The way I found freedom from constant obsessing and failing with food, was to question the “shoulds” that I had since I was a pre-teen.
One of the key ways to work with a “should” that’s screaming in your head, is to first, pause and relax just a moment. Take a deep breath right now. I love how taking in air is incredibly relaxing and regulates the nervous system.
Then, instead of gathering energy or making plans with how you are going to make sure you’re successful at the should or shouldn’t rules about eating….instead…wonder WHY you have the rule?
For example, the simple thought “I shouldn’t eat that”.
Instead of aggressively making plans for how you’re not going to eat it….let’s study the belief and see if it’s true.
Why not?
WHY should you not eat that particular thing?
Our answers often boil down to this one: because I need to lose weight.
But there’s also this one: because I’m not hungry.
To wonder with compassion about why you have a thought about eating when not hungry, or why it is so incredibly important to get thin, is really interesting.
Are you absolutely sure you are not hungry? Are you absolutely sure you need to lose weight?
There may be a hunger (that isn’t necessarily about your stomach) you’re not allowing yourself to notice, and an ideal you’re trying to achieve that is not possible to achieve peacefully.
It’s a whole world of investigation that’s entirely worth the trip, watching a combative and relentless false belief-system have it’s way with you, so that you’re entirely ruled by it and stuck and miserably unhappy, instead of open and curious.
And that belief system ruins the joy of food, too.
Well, it certainly did for me. I couldn’t eat one bite without my mind saying “you did that wrong” or “good job, you get a gold star “.
It was like having a vicious authority constantly watching.
Well, it was.
Today, let’s question the simple and common thought “I shouldn’t eat that”. You can think of a specific food.
To question this thought doesn’t mean you’re going to eat it day and night and grow obese or get sick and die.
To question this thought is to open the mind to wondering instead of the rigid, tight and condemning lists of rules formed to succeed.
See what happens. See what kind of softness might possibly appear if you don’t have a “should” or “shouldn’t” running, and instead….you’re free to choose.
And, if you’d like to participate in an online workshop I’ll give for no charge (date coming soon) we can address some of this together, especially in this odd time where many of us are in the kitchen more than ever, wishing we were not there. (Join facebook group here).
Much love,
Grace
In these strange times when a lot is happening in the world in extra intense ways, you may notice that thoughts you’ve had that feel stressful (or OK, terrifying) are even bigger and more pronounced.
I’ve been working with people all week doing The Work who report that some situation or relationship they previously had found insight on…..is BACK.
Kinda like those horror movies.
Ugh.
Arguing too much, feeling too much, eating too much, spending too much, worrying too much. Seeing images of a difficult or catastrophic or torturous future.
An excruciating belief can be this little ditty (a ditty is a little song, by the way…a little song or song snippet that keeps repeating in your head that you can’t stop hearing, can’t stop singing).
Maybe it feels like a full symphony orchestral piece. With strings, horns and percussion sections.
I won’t have enough.
To hold this belief, I notice I need to have experienced not-enough-ness, heard about other people not having enough, been terrified of Not Enough in the past.
I need to believe in this thing called Not Enough and that it means something terrible.
Like suffering, rejection, abandonment, pain, or death.
Who are we when we believe there isn’t enough, or won’t be later?
Freaking out. Worried. Planning incessantly. Busy. Sitting in our quiet little homes in silence, imagining a torturous future.
So who would we be without our story?
Much love,
Grace