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When eating or not eating both seem like bad options….

An interesting dilemma comes alive with ending compulsive behavior sometimes (frequently) for people:
If I eat the thing…I’ll suffer.
If I don’t eat the thing…I’ll suffer.
If I eat the thing, I’ll criticize and berate and be very cruel to myself. Again.
If I eat the thing, I’ll gain weight. I’ll force myself to purge by harsh exercise or starvation or vomiting.
If I eat the thing, I’ll be guilty.
If I do NOT eat the thing, I also won’t have fun.
I’ll be stranded out here in emptiness, silence, or a turmoil of emotions without anywhere for them to go.
I’ll get more obsessed, I’ll go crazy.
I’ll attack other people, I won’t be able to shut my mouth, my anger will leak out or slam out involuntarily.
I’ll feel so restricted and starved.
Wow. It’s a No Win situation.
But what if you questioned the idea that all your choices (whittled down to two here) are full of SUFFERING?
What if not eating–when you’re overcome by the compulsive urge to eat when not hungry–was actually kind, and a relief?
When hungry, eating is a relief. A meal with other people is sharing, connection and can be enormously nourishing and kind.
When not hungry, eating is a burden (even if it seems to relieve emotional disruption).
The great question, in any given moment that appears to have a compulsive activity as an option:
What would kindness do?
How would kindness eat right now?
What would a peaceful voice have to say about this moment, and your options?
When is Not Eating an act of kindness?
When is Eating an act of kindness?
You are more clear on this than you suspect. You know how to be kind.
Kindness is what you ultimately gravitate most towards.
Peace and quiet. The canvas that holds all thought.
Saying “no” to eating might be kinder than you think. Same with saying “yes”.
Question the thought “either choice will lead to suffering”.
Is that really true? What if it wasn’t?

Much love,

Grace

 

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questioning the voice in the head that says you’re doing it wrong

I remember when my thoughts always told me; “you are losing the ‘eating-right’ game”, “you don’t have what it takes to have the best body”, “resign yourself to a mediocre life and presentation”, “you are pure greed”(especially after a big binge-eating episode).
Wow.
Something so wrong with me.
I tried so hard to regroup, figure it out.
I went to Beyond Dieting group, 12 steps, est, Context Training, transactional analysis group therapy, A Course In Miracles for a year-long study group, People House 9 month emotional health training program, in-patient 6 weeks in Porter Memorial Hospital Denver, self-defense training, assertiveness training, freudian therapy 3 times a week (costing my parents thousands), joining the gym, tracking food, eliminating all “binge foods”.
Many of these have wonderful, supportive features.
I was trying something that could heal my compulsion, pain, suffering constantly.
Money, time, effort, research, energy spent to find the “right” answer. The thing that would work to eliminate this horrible problem called “binge eating”.
So much depression and angst.
The thing about researching and looking for answers is that it is seeking information outside oneself, hunting it down, high alert for something that might ticker-tape by without me knowing it.
You know the childhood game Hide-N-Seek, when you have the role of Seeker?
I have to grab, get, hunt, find. ASAP!!
What I did not know was how narrowly focused I was on eliminating “binge-eating”.
I missed anything except what might be occurring OUTSIDE of myself.
What I was, was the One who was missing something.
Obviously.
The Answer was Out There.
Obviously.
Find the missing answer, the gem, and solve this problem of binge-eating.
Right?
What if we inquired instead and sat with our answers, even if we’re not sure we actually have any viable answers?
“I am not getting it right”.
Is that true?
YES.
Can you absolutely know that this is true?
Hmmm. Seems like it.
But can I know that if I am not getting this eating thing right, it means peace is not possible here, with me?
Does it mean that left to my own devices, I’m doomed?
Who am I without this story?
Who are you without your thoughts about getting this eating thing wrong?
Who are you without your thoughts about getting this eating thing wrong?
Two people have asked recently whether they could still join Eating Peace Experience that started last week and runs until March 18th. The answer is you could probably jump in and catch up with Module One until November 4th when we’ll really be rolling along into Module Two.
You are welcome to join HERE. Best. Group. Ever. I am loving the people participating. We are changing our minds through awareness, understanding the process of thinking and how it fuels stress, or peace.
Eating Peace is literally eating–taking in and becoming one with–peace. It is feeling peaceful about eating. To end the war is miraculous, and joyful. We are all connected.
Much love,
Grace
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Do you eat because you’re bored?

In the Eating Peace Experience, I share three troubling perspectives about life that appear to trigger compulsive patterns.
I know that sounds crazy simplistic.
Just three?
When we’ve done this compulsive thing over and over for years, and it seems random, chaotic, upsetting, emotional.
It seems complicated!
But how helpful it can be to direct our attention to these points where we get thrown off balance by our thinking and our uncomfortable feelings and notice how we’re disturbed so often by the same things.
These three areas are quite large, big umbrellas of “thought” that show up and cause havoc in behavior when we don’t understand, when we’re upset.
What makes us eat (when it’s not hunger):
  • Feeling fear, feeling threatened (life is too much)
  • Feeling powerless (victimized, small, despairing, resigned)
  • Feeling bored and empty (life is not enough)
Powerless. Afraid. Empty.
I’ve heard a lot of people sharing lately about feeling stuck at home, not having a normal routine, being in the same four walls all day.
Bored.
The third concept above.
Usually when we’re bored, we have fleeting images of what would be more entertaining.
NOT this moment.
This moment is not good enough, fun enough, full enough.
Let’s eat something interesting. That’s at least more pleasant.
What if we studied what was happening in this boring moment…..where entertainment, contact with people, busy-ness, or pleasure appears to be more appealing?
How curious we might become with the mind as it talks away about how boring everything is.
Noticing something is here besides empty space and empty moment.
Could it be more satisfying than we *think*?
This moment is so boring and empty....let's eat something
This moment is so boring and empty….let’s eat something
The Eating Peace Experience is all about using The Work of Byron Katie, a powerful inquiry process, to identify and question our deep-seated beliefs about food, taking in this substance called food, body weight, thin, fat, troubling feelings, soothing, pleasure, urgency, grabbing.
We’re working with the way the mind tends to over-think and over-whelm our experience of life with dread, emptiness, anxiety or wanting.
Being in Eating Peace, we study compulsion and we also study peace.
We’re peace students.
We’ve already probably been peace students–or peace hunters–for a long time, and wondered how the heck to find it?!
Can you imagine being so interested in the compulsive urge that we see what it really is? No special medicine required?
The only requirement for joining Eating Peace is the desire to understand our repetitive impulses for arguing, defending against, debating with the present moment (or really, our thoughts about the present moment).
Especially when it involves food.
Wow, when I think of my old relationship with food, it was brutal.
Never peaceful, ever.
The way I related to the world and food was so fearful, worrisome and contentious.
I felt so disappointed. I tried so many things to find peace.
Eating Peace is a program for people with off-balance thinking, feeling, eating patterns….like the kind I once had.
We’re exploring how our our beliefs about feelings, eating, bodies and other people throws us out of balance and into the past or future. Into fear and neediness.
Our great question for the five months ahead, that we all explore together:
Who are we without our stories about eating, food, having a body, relating, taking in, absorbing, digesting the experience of life?
Love to have you join us, if the timing is right.
We’re learning to love what is.
Register for Eating Peace Experience HERE.
Much love,
Grace
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When we feel like a victim of our own eating behavior….and can’t get out of it. The Work.

I’ve often been stunned by the level of cruelty in my own mind towards myself, especially in my former history of eating and body attack.
When I was in graduate school long ago, I learned of a classic description of psychological personality pain called the “drama triangle”.
In this triangle, put very simplistically, there are three positions:
Victim
Persecutor
Rescuer
The victim feels like Poor Me, I can’t do it right, I’m a piece of s&*t.
The persecutor says “you are the worst person in the world, I will fight, hurt and punish you until the day you die” (and other very mean thoughts and attitudes).
The rescuer comes in and tries to help saying “Awww, you’re OK, really you are. This will all pass, just hang on. Be positive. Everything’ll be fine. Want something nice to eat?”
Sometimes, we’re in this triangle with actual people: parents and children, friend groups with some friends fighting or rescuing other friends, the relationship between partners taking on roles of victim, rescuer, or persecutor.
We can switch these roles within our own psyches in an instant, in order to stay safe (we think), depending on the situation.
If we feel compulsive or addictive, like in eating off balance as I did, we’ll use these three unhealthy unbalanced voices to try to assert change or find some kind of relief.
Trouble is, you stay in a very tormented story where no one is the hero and no one ever succeeds or feels peaceful.
And oh my, when we feel like we’re a victim of our own behavior, with food or otherwise, we feel DOOMED.
My greatest enemy?
Me!
Yikes, how do I get rid of her, if she’s me?
If you’ve felt like a victim of yourself, I hope this commentary helps.
When I go on youtube live, I never know where we’ll end up or what will happen….or how long I’ll speak.
But one thing that’s lovely to notice now in life: I am not a victim of my behavior in how I speak on youtube (rambling as it may be, LOL).
There’s not a “big mistake” (or maybe there is, but it’s not so dramatic or forever).
I hope it serves.
I love your questions about healing off-balance eating, thinking and feeling.
When we find freedom from the torture of unnecessary suffering around food and eating or body hatred, we can find our minds and hearts have the capacity for great love.

Much love,

Grace

P.S. For Eating Peace work, the next event is Eating Peace Experience which is an immersion group starting Monday, October 5th. Learn more HERE.

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Two stories to question to solidly begin the healing journey to eating peace

Often when people come to do The Work on eating issues or weight troubles, they say they aren’t sure what they’re thinking or believing….so it’s too hard to do The Work.
The first step in doing The Work of Byron Katie, after all, is identifying what you’re thinking, so that you can question it.
They have some wisdom in this noticing.
It seems like all there is, is a swirl of emotion, agony, failure and guilt for having this weird off-balance wild eating thing that goes on.
There’s planning on how to control it (diets) and enduring self-hatred, anger, even rage, and despair.
The feelings are so big, even just in thinking or telling the story of eating, weight gain, weight loss, struggles with certain foods….it can feel like a nightmare.
What the heck is going on here?
Well…it seems complicated. 
So many experts have multitudes of philosophies about what’s necessary to heal this predicament of over-eating or under-eating or terrorizing ourselves with food or our belief that we have imperfect bodies.
I’ve noticed two stories, that really relate to this statement that people make over and over; “I don’t know what I’m thinking, I just feel terrible”. (I don’t know what I’m thinking, I just know I want to eat, eat, eat….and then I feel horrible about myself). 
Here’s what these stories are.
See if you ever think they’re true, or not:
1) This eating/compulsion issue is not a problem in the mind, it’s about food, eating and the body and getting these ‘right’. 
 
2) This eating/compulsion issue is about problems with difficult emotions; if I didn’t react so big, I wouldn’t eat.
 
The thing about these two stories is they have some truth in them…but the mind starts problem-solving and drawing conclusions on how to work with these stories in stressful ways, that require diets, control, willpower, and lots of planning and forecasting.
I don’t know about you, but the last thing I needed when it came to eating was more planning, controlling, dieting, manipulating and managing food and eating or my feelings or trying to make my feelings smaller.
What I desperately wanted and had a vision for, was to feel like I did when I was a little kid: carefree about eating.
I know, I know.
Some of you can’t remember ever feeling carefree about food and eating. But when you were born, I think you were born with all the raw material needed for balance with food.
But no wonder we feel so bad, and we’re not even sure what we’re thinking and believing!
It’s a tangle in there!
The first story, that this problem resides within the body and within eating behavior or food itself and not the mind….well, that’s maybe partially accurate.
But what happens with the awareness of this story?
The mind stamps the culprit as “guilty”!
The blame lies in the behavior, the food, the body.
So let’s punish, control, structure and give rules for what’s Allowed and Not Allowed to the human so they know how to behave. We’ll fix this problem!
That can work if the rules are followed. Sort of.
Except. The rules aren’t followed sometimes (or maybe a lot of the time).
Plus, what if you want to live freely without dictatorship?
What if want to learn how to naturally reside in peace and kindness with food, eating and the body?
What if you want the attitude you carry to be genuinely joyful and guilt-free when it comes to eating….and wake up to a new way of life in relation to having a body (one that needs to eat in order to live)?
What I learned about my own crazed eating was that it was in my mind that things went crazy first.
I began to think very stressful thoughts about acceptance, rejection, perfection, anger, right bodies, wrong bodies, weight, trauma, worry, control and fear.
I began to observe other peoples’ terror of fatness, and scare myself with the same belief.
I didn’t realize that if I questioned my entire paradigm around dangerous foods, “bad” eating behavior, urges and cravings, and the need for the best body ever….I might have settled down and stopped feeling so frantic about food.
If I had been able to know that my trouble was in my perspective about eating, my interpretation with what I saw, I would have focused much more on my mind than on the scale or the latest diet. Or the next binge.
The second story also has an element of truth, but is again a bit tricky.
2) This eating/compulsion issue is about problems with difficult emotions; if I didn’t react so big, I wouldn’t eat.
 
Well, sure.

 

Big emotions of depression, fear, irritation, sadness or loneliness often feel like they need soothing.

 

If your mind and thoughts are like mine, then you’ll notice when big feelings come it seems dangerous.

 

We have to shut those things down, we think.

 

What better way to do this, than to eat or do some other kind of addictive or compulsive activity?

 

Eat. Big emergency feeling is over.
 
We’ve all heard of the term “emotional eating”. If you’ve done it before, you feel upset, and after a little while (or immediately), the idea of eating sweet, soothing, salty or tasty things sounds fantastic.

 

So the mind then concludes that if only we could get at what made you so emotional and understand it, or make it so these emotions don’t erupt in the first place….then you’ll stop eating because of emotions.

 

Again, the underlying premise of this story is emotions are the thing to blame, the guilty party.

 

So let’s shove them down, eliminate them.

 

We’re back to willpower, management, control, restricting feelings, holding back, forcing, following the rules.

 

Kinda like diets, only towards “feelings” instead.

 

Of course we don’t know what we’re really thinking, we just feel confused and terrible.

 

And keep on eating.

 

For me, this healing work when it comes to eating is about identifying beliefs that are the very foundations we stand on and believe about life…and questioning them.

 

Good news: It’s not as difficult to identify the thoughts and beliefs as you think.

 

The first step is to look at this war-torn land of destructive behavior about eating, food, body and weight and don’t try to DO something immediately, which is what we’ve always done.

 

Instead, let’s ask “I wonder what I must be thinking and believing that would be the trigger for this behavior?”

 

Even this answer may not be as complicated as you think.

 

Does this mean to never structure your food or plan on what you’ll be eating tomorrow?

 

No. Some people really need this as a deeply supportive way to help them stop freaking out about food right now.

 

In the upcoming Eating Peace Basics Live Zoom Course, we’ll be talking about thoughts, feelings and the food itself.

 

Each week, I will share one story (we’ll start with the first two I’ve shared here today) and work with the beliefs that support all these particular stories of agony with eating.

 

This work is about healing eating issues from the inside out.

 

There is no magic pill. But there may be far more magic than you realize…if magic is greater lightness, joy and peace when it comes to eating.

 

Some struggle for so long with eating, they think it’s impossible to end their battle.

 

I believe that for anyone willing to look at thought systems and to question them, it’s possible to change the way you live with food.

 

Eating Peace Basics 101 Online Live Course will run June 24th – August 12th with live Wednesday calls (all recorded) from 9am-10:30am Pacific Time (or start time of Noon ET or 6pm Europe).
In this course I’ll share 8 key foundational stories–one every week–that are key to investigating so we can dissolve the eating wars we’ve been fighting.
To identify our thinking inside these common stories, and then question the beliefs running for us, makes peace possible.
It has for me. I eat whatever and whenever I want without fear, and my weight seems to stay the same, for many years now.
I once ate like I was taken over by an evil force, or a zombie, with huge desperate binges, forced vomiting, torturous exercising by running for miles, and self-hatred.
This no longer occurs to me.
It’s my joy to facilitate freedom from that kind of inner pain with you or anyone suffering from eating wars.
Read more about the Eating Peace Basics course here.
To hear me share more about these first two stories that are helpful to question in the overall healing journey with eating, watch below.

Much love,
Grace
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I shouldn’t eat that….how to find the place beyond painful set-ups about food

I’ve heard from a remarkable number of people in this time of the virus.

At home, strange schedule, near the fridge or the pantry.

Eating. Eating some more.

You are not alone if this is your experience. And, there is a way to heal and end that impulse.

I’m working on a quick free workshop online for those of us with consuming issues. It will be for people in the private facebook group HERE.

The facebook group is free, and a place where we kindly share around how to relax from the root cause–beliefs in the mind–about food, eating, emotions and body image.

I think of the whole world of THOUGHT about eating, body image, exercising, over-examining diet, constant return to eating off-balance….like a religion or a university of eating that’s gone completely off the rails with false stories and beliefs.

Yikes. Lots of rules and regulations, stress, requirements, impossible goals and expectations. You can’t seem to graduate successfully either.

One Bible of Beliefs about food and eating is The Book of Shoulds and Shouldn’ts.

We should do this, and not do that. Eat this, not that. Eat this way, not that way. Eat at this time, not that time. Look this way, not that way.

All while maintaining sanity. So in other words, we even believe we should think certain ways, and feel certain ways.

It’s exhausting, and very difficult to maintain the rigor needed to keep all the “shoulds” together.

The way I found freedom from constant obsessing and failing with food, was to question the “shoulds” that I had since I was a pre-teen.

One of the key ways to work with a “should” that’s screaming in your head, is to first, pause and relax just a moment. Take a deep breath right now. I love how taking in air is incredibly relaxing and regulates the nervous system.

Then, instead of gathering energy or making plans with how you are going to make sure you’re successful at the should or shouldn’t rules about eating….instead…wonder WHY you have the rule?

For example, the simple thought “I shouldn’t eat that”.

Instead of aggressively making plans for how you’re not going to eat it….let’s study the belief and see if it’s true.

Why not?

WHY should you not eat that particular thing?

Our answers often boil down to this one: because I need to lose weight. 

But there’s also this one: because I’m not hungry.

To wonder with compassion about why you have a thought about eating when not hungry, or why it is so incredibly important to get thin, is really interesting.

Are you absolutely sure you are not hungry? Are you absolutely sure you need to lose weight?

There may be a hunger (that isn’t necessarily about your stomach) you’re not allowing yourself to notice, and an ideal you’re trying to achieve that is not possible to achieve peacefully.

It’s a whole world of investigation that’s entirely worth the trip, watching a combative and relentless false belief-system have it’s way with you, so that you’re entirely ruled by it and stuck and miserably unhappy, instead of open and curious.

And that belief system ruins the joy of food, too.

Well, it certainly did for me. I couldn’t eat one bite without my mind saying “you did that wrong” or “good job, you get a gold star “. 

It was like having a vicious authority constantly watching.

Well, it was.

Today, let’s question the simple and common thought “I shouldn’t eat that”. You can think of a specific food.

To question this thought doesn’t mean you’re going to eat it day and night and grow obese or get sick and die.

To question this thought is to open the mind to wondering instead of the rigid, tight and condemning lists of rules formed to succeed.

See what happens. See what kind of softness might possibly appear if you don’t have a “should” or “shouldn’t” running, and instead….you’re free to choose.

And, if you’d like to participate in an online workshop I’ll give for no charge (date coming soon) we can address some of this together, especially in this odd time where many of us are in the kitchen more than ever, wishing we were not there. (Join facebook group here).

Much love,

Grace

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I have to do it right, not wrong…..I HAVE TO worry about this (eating, weight, conditions).

My right thumb was hurt (you get to see in this video–just the bandaids, don’t worry).
I just can barely type.
But I made you a video on a powerful topic, called WORRYING.
The mind will say “you need to worry about this!” (food, eating, meals, plans, body image, weight, size, shape, feelings, conditions….and much much more).
You might think “Well, duh. Of course I have to worry. Are you kidding me?”
Is that actually true though?
Are you sure you need to worry?
What if you did NOT believe this thought?
Wow.

Much love,

Grace

 

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Uh Oh. I had an old glitch in my thinking on the final Eating Peace Webinar: too-much-not-enough-never-just-right

Love the folks who attended the webinars, wow. Thank you for all your emails.

Here is the replay of the very last day, which I think went the very best: no tech troubles, no sudden noises to edit out, no goofy mistakes.

EatingPeace Webinar LIVE 1 24 2020
Eating Peace Webinar: Five Spells to Break, or How We’re Thinking About Food & Body, To Dissolve Our Eating Battles

Although those tech mistakes can be quite entertaining and funny.

I even remembered to put up my front door sign for when clients come over: “Please do NOT knock, IN SESSION”. 

At the end, I did have a tiny glitch however.

It was a “thinking” glitch.

Inside my own head.

A momentary thought based on a comment in the chat: “I just wish the program wasn’t so expensive.”

Sigh.

I’ve gone all over the place from wanting to offer entirely free grant-run programs with no financial barrier to anyone, to wanting to make a decent income for myself and feel compensated for all the time and training undertaken.

It appears to be ever in-between the two, and always finding its own balance.

Perhaps just like the inner world of eating when it’s at peace: not too little, not too much. 

Just right.

I know the fee seems expensive to some, based on the full range of what it available online in the world, from completely free to many thousands of dollars.

I realized in the moment of reading that comment about the fee, I had the opportunity to do The Work on the beliefs “I’ve disappointed people” or “they think it’s too expensive and that means IT IS” or “they wish it was less expensive and that means…..they don’t understand the work and effort put into this” or finally “it means I’m doing something wrong”.

Oh my.

I noticed, I had no idea if any of those are true.

But the distant feeling of stress. Ugh.

I did immense research on the time, expense and effort to build the program and determine the fee (and got help doing this, too).

Suddenly, to connect with this inquiry and share the thinking, I jumped on video and did The Work right on the spot.

I hope you find the familiar voice of what I call Too Much Not Enough Never Just Right helpful to question.

That’s a story or spell I always believed about food. It never seemed it was just right. Ever.

And how about landing on the pricing for this immersion program? Also not just right for some people.

Eating, Money, This Moment, Life: Too Much or Not Enough, Never Just Right
Eating, Money, This Moment, Life: Too Much or Not Enough, Never Just Right

No one needs any program, ultimately. You have a program already, and it’s called Your Life.

This EPE program is created in service to find peace and rest, in our inner world when it comes to food, eating, hunger, fullness, compulsion, weight, fat, thin, lack of connection.

It also is a pay-it-forward to all the people who helped me along the way: therapists, meditation teachers, experts, nutritionists, authors, guides.

My intentions are very sincere and a huge amount of effort and research and constant improvement has gone on to make this program….and it won’t be right for everyone, that’s for sure.

People in the past who have signed up have helped make it better and better.

It’s a grand learning experiment.

If it is sincerely and honestly way too much for you to afford and yet you’d love to participate, then you can apply for a scholarship by filling in detail at the link provided below, letting us know what would work for you–I’ll read it with the assistance of a mentor I trust and we’ll get back to you as soon as possible before Sunday, January 26th at midnight when the Eating Peace Experience program closes.

Click HERE for the scholarship application. Please share as much as possible about your current circumstances.

And to all of you eating peace readers, my sincere thanks in this journey of the past few weeks gearing up to Eating Peace Experience.

And now return you to your regularly scheduled programming (LOL): Eating Peace encouragement around once a week. If you wish to unsubscribe, click on the very tiny small letters at the bottom of any email where it says Update Preferences/Unsubscribe.

Much love,

Grace

 
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Question this thinking, change your eating….permanently

Wow, the very last Eating Peace LIVE Webinar this season of the new 2020 is today, Friday January 24th at noon Pacific Time. 
It’s just about completely full, no more room. If you’re interested in attending live, you can see if there’s a space still left right here.
(If you registered and can’t attend, please cancel so there’s a space for someone else).
Yesterday after last night’s webinar I received a beautiful note thanking me so so much for this work in eating peace.
This work is so important.
Lives get ruined because of LACK of eating peace and the repetitive trying to do it the same way over and over again: diet, exercise, control, force.
The only way I found inner peace with food and eating was the way I teach it: identifying and questioning thought patterns that fuel crazy eating.
Sound too simple?
It’s not.
The stress of eating wildly looks and sounds awful. We feel horrendous, nervous, like food and eating is dangerous and an area for being really really careful.
We think food makes us fat, wrong, ugly, greedy. We hate ourselves and our bodies.
We feel hopelessly ashamed, and still we sneak food.
If this has been YOU, then I hope you’ll join me in the Eating Peace Experience where our mission is ending eating battles for good.
Everyone who joins Eating Peace online is in for life. You join, and if you need to return to a future round of looking at compulsion even if it’s not necessarily food….you never pay again.
I am committed to growing, learning and transforming with you, one step and one day at a time.
The most inspiring things have occurred from offering this advanced work in transforming beliefs around food, eating, bodies, thin, fat, hunger, fullness, emotions, boredom, pleasure, dependency, fear, trauma, rejection and acceptance.
Eating troubles, quite honestly, wound up shaping my life into one of freedom, service, and a spiritual path I never imagined possible.
We’re finding a new freedom from eating torture and the need to control, and discovering calm and rest within when it comes to food.
Really, when it comes to our whole lives.
It doesn’t mean all emotions are all-peace all the time 24/7.
No.
I have doubt, worry, anxiety, sadness, grief, anger, irritation.
It’s called being human.
But these feelings have nothing to do with eating. Eating doesn’t occur to me as a way to resolve feelings, or calm myself down. It just doesn’t even come up. Eating doesn’t have to do with staying or getting thin. Eating doesn’t have to do with yet another way I can hate myself.
Eating off balance and feeling strong feelings including shame have been un-velcroed from each other.
The cravings, urges and compulsions have dissolved.
These past six days I worked with the group who came to Eating Peace Retreat to discover the way to end disordered eating, disordered thinking.
Light bulbs went off.
The shifts as we stepped through our days as we ate, thought, questioned, walked and even danced together were gorgeous to behold.
And now, a new group online gets to gather, share, and continue the healing movement of Eating Peace-Thinking Peace in our daily lives.
No matter who you are, no matter how crazy you’ve been with eating and food….I know you have the capacity to find peace with eating and your body.
It all starts with identifying the tricky, debilitating, difficult thoughts that drive off-balance eating.
Once we see, we can question them: “is that actually true?”
We can find out for ourselves, and stop doubting and freaking out.
I can’t wait to see you in Eating Peace Experience.
We begin on Monday! WOW! 
We’re looking at a paradigm shift from eating battles to eating peace.
What could be better than that, after all this suffering and agony?
Sign up for the full Eating Peace Experience here and let’s sail into this leap year 2020 together, and bring peace to broken hearts about our bodies, weight and ways of eating.
Join me HERE. Everyone who joins gets membership for life.

Much love,

Grace

 

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Happiness doesn’t depend on what happens, my body shape or size, or the food

Being happy is not dependent on the shape and weight of your body, or the food in your kitchen or in your hand. Happiness requires turning your attention to happiness, questioning your thinking, noticing.
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Woohoo! We successfully went live and broadcast without a hitch on Monday’s Eating Peace Webinar with no tech troubles.
(Well, the slides could have been bigger for at least one person. Next time, I’ll be able to expand them to full size).
This is the way of it. Continued learning. Keep getting feedback, keep refining. A wonderful adventure.
And now, I have a request that would mean so much: If you’ve watched the webinar live or the recording so far could you answer 10 questions (completely anonymous) right HERE? (It should take about 4 minutes).
This helps things keep getting better and better; it can’t happen without you.
I want to create a powerful webinar that will support people ending their suffering around eating like I experienced, even if they never buy or attend anything with me.
I mean it.
I was so lost in my disordered-thinking, off-balance feeling and eating experience….I’m not sure if the internet had existed I would have been able to find peace online to be honest. Not at the beginning of my journey.
But later, absolutely. I watch and listen to so much that’s available, it’s amazing.
And speaking of ongoing, regular, steady improvement and refinement….
….I remember a time when I never felt like that was happening when it came to eating.
Ugh.
If you feel like me, my attempts to find calm and satisfaction and to quit being so obsessive with food was like doing a replay of stepping on a rake, and rake hitting face, over and over and over again.
Think of every rake as a new diet plan.
Sigh.
The Simpsons - Sideshow Bob Stepping On Rakes Compilation
The Simpsons – Sideshow Bob Stepping On Rakes Compilation
Now, I know so much better how to connect with people. I know how to connect with my own inner questions, with my honest feelings, with my own needs. I have so much less judgment of myself and of others.
What a relief.

Life with food, eating and having a body–no matter how imperfect–has become calm. Not dreadful and dramatic.

You can have this too. It’s all about inquiring and noticing the hellish stories you believe about eating or yourself, or the world….are really not true for you.
Four more masterclass webinars still to come in the weeks ahead Eating Peace–Five Spells to Break to End Your Eating Battles:
  • Weds, January 15th at 9am PT/ Noon ET (soon!)
  • Tuesday, January 21st 10am PT/ 7pm Europe
  • Thursday, January 23rd 5pm PT/ 10am Japan
  • Friday, January 24th Noon PT/3pm ET (last one)
To register, choose your date, and receive the link to attend please click here. Note: a popup will appear in order for you to enter your email–be sure to have your popup blocker off.
Much love,
Grace
P.S. Thank you so much in advance for your feedback on the webinar!